Hug Your Husband!

It’s been quite awhile since I’ve written on this blog.  I’ve been posting regularly over at Harvest Lane Cottage.  I posted last here about giving love lavishly.  Much has happened since then.  My husband took a position in another city and comes home only on weekends.  It seems harder than ever now that we are so far apart.  Nevertheless, we are persevering and looking forward to the time when our family can be reunited again. 

This isn’t the first time we’ve been apart.  In fact, being apart began while we were in our dating days.  We grew up in Topeka, Kansas.  I met Lowell my last year of high school.  After I graduated, I went to school in Oklahoma.  Lowell was still in Topeka.  Our love grew through letters, occasional trips home, and lots of late night phone calls.  That was back when it was cheaper to call after 11:00 p.m.  I know…ancient history!  I ended up returning to Topeka after one semester because I was too love sick to concentrate on my studies!

Later, after we were married, Lowell had to work out of town for sales jobs.  We both hated it; but, it couldn’t be helped.  He missed much of our first two children’s babyhoods.  When he found I was expecting the third baby, he decided that he would change positions.  It was great to have him home when we had the last two babies. 

Now, he’s on the road again.  We have been separated for three months now.  We had hoped to be able to move by now; but, there’s no date in sight.  Right now there are some obstacles that we don’t know how to overcome.  If you are reading this, and you are a Believer in Jesus Christ, I ask that you pray for us.  We want God’s will.  We are just weary in waiting for clear directions from Him.

I thank God that I know that I can trust my husband.  I know he will be faithful to me, to our vows and to our children.  He knows the same about me.  That is very comforting.  He’s a good Godly man.  I thank God for him.

Have a wonderful week and hug your husband!


Happy at Home

Every True Wife

“Every true wife makes her husband’s interests her own. While he lives for her, carrying her image in his heart and toiling for her all the days, she thinks only of what will do him good. When burdens press upon him she tries to lighten them by sympathy, by cheer, by the inspiration of love. She enters with zest and enthusiasm into all his plans. She is never a weight to drag him down, she is his strength in his heart to help him ever to do nobler and better things.”

 ~ Homemaking ~

J.R. Miller


“She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”

Proverbs 31

Friday Night Date Night

Once upon a time, we had only little children. Four children ten and under to be exact. Date nights were far and few between. In fact, when Matthew was little, we only went out as a couple once or twice a year. Those were lean years for us, living on one income, and paying a babysitter and going out just wasn’t possible. I do remember the excitement of getting to go out on a date when he was about 3. The excitement turned to concern and disappointment as he developed a fever that day. I was not about to leave him when he had a fever. So, we improvised. I set up a little table in our bedroom and set it with a pretty tablecloth and china and candles. After I got Matthew to bed early, Lowell went for chinese take out. We ate our cashew chicken dinner by candle light, realizing we were really grown up and had responsibilities; but, our love could still be celebrated.

Fast forward a few years. Grandma Judy would occassionally watch the children; but, as the family grew, they outnumbered her! By the time we had all four of our children, we had started going out once a month with close friends. Matthew and her teenage daughter watched all their kids and all our kids together. Over the years, we went out once a month on a double date. It was a time that we could enjoy each other and our friends.

For about four years now, Matthew has watched the kids for us for a Friday night date night. We don’t always get to go; but, we really try to make it every Friday night. Last week, our date cost about $6. We went to Arby’s with coupons and had sandwiches, drinks, and fries. A few weeks earlier, we went to Subway and shared a $5 footlong and a drink. Yes, over the years, we’ve had some very fancy dates and gone to very nice restaurants. That’s not the season we’re in right now; and, that’s alright. I can enjoy my Honey for $6 just as well as for $30. It’s the one on one that matters.

So, if you’re married, plan to sneak away next Friday night, even for the dollar menu, if necessary. Can’t get away because of your children? Plan an early bedtime for them. Feed them early. Threaten them to stay in bed! ~smile~ Then slip away to set up a table on the porch, in the living room, your bedroom, someplace different. Then serve your meal there. It doesn’t matter so much what it is but who you’re with.

In Love with My Man
After All These Years

I’m Going to Wake Up With My Husband of 23 Years and My Sweetheart of 27 Years

Yes, we were high school sweethearts. Different high schools, but sweethearts nonetheless. I love him still. We didn’t need to scratch the 7 year itcch. We didn’t want each other to drop dead at a decade. We didn’t lose the fire at fifteen. We didn’t think twice at twenty. Today it’s twenty-three. We don’t want to be free.

We made our commitment to each other and to God twenty-three years ago at 4:00 in the afternoon. God was our witness. He was and He is a member in this three way covenant we made. Many trials and storms have come and gone in our life together. God has always strengthened us at just the right time.

We are Lowell and Laura…always and forever…until death do us part.

Lowell, I love you no matter what, no matter where, no matter….

Father God, I love You and I thank You for the grace and perseverance and trust in each other that You’ve given us. Thank you for teaching us very early never to say the D word, no matter what.

Happy Anniversary Honey!


I Thank God… Day 30

I thank God for my son, Matthew. I’ve learned so much through the years of mothering, teaching, and loving him. He’s nearly grown now…at least I hope he is. He’s over six feet tall!
I thank God for my daughter, Emily. She helped me through the grieving my mother’s death, just by being my baby girl. She’s such a wonderful girl…a real Proverbs 31 lady in the making. She is my singer, dancer, and baker. I truly enjoy her company. She is my Wednesdays at One appointment.
I thank God for my son, Michael. He brought joy and laughter back to me after my mom’s death, just a couple of months before his birth. His name was supposed to be Zachary Isaac, meaning “God remembered laughter.” The night before he was born, Matthew asked us to name him Michael Gabriel, “Man of God, God is my Strength”. After he was born, we prayed. His name is Michael Gabriel. He truly is the one who brings laughter and laughs the most in our family. When asked which Lane Kid he is, he can answer, “the fun one.”
I thank God for my little Amy. She was truly a gift from God. We had been asking the Lord whether we should have another baby, rather than telling us, He showed us! What a thrill! We are so thankful that we were submissive to God’s plan for our life. She brings so much happiness. She’s my little decorator. She’s going to love setting out the Christmas things.
I thank God for my husband, Lowell, who has taken me for richer or poorer (We were hoping for richer.), in sickness and in health (I’m hoping for a little healthier.), ’til death do us part (That part we’re solid on.).
He’s got an amazing faith in God. When I’m falling apart, he’s there steadily believing God for whatever we need. He’s amazing; and, he’s mine, all mine.
Thank you God for giving me the best blessings, these five who share my home and my heart.
Thank you for this love that they give me.
Thank you God for my Salvation through Jesus Christ.
Thank you for Your Holy Word to us, the Bible.
Thank you for giving me a church family who loves us and challenges us to be more like You.
Thank you, Lord!
A Month of Thanks

I Thank God…Day 23

Twenty-seven years ago today, I said a three letter word that changed my life. Yes. My Honey Lowell asked me to go steady with him. ~smile~ We had only known each other a little over a month at the time. Honestly, I didn’t expect it to last this long. The kids I knew usually went steady for one to three months at most. When we got to three months, I remember thinking that it was really a long-term relationship. By six months, I started thinking about marriage! Mind you, we were only 16! I found an old diary where I had planned out how we would get through college and the steps toward marriage. I forgot about it; but, we ended up following “the plan” almost all the way. Oh, how I wish I’d know God better back then. Even then, I was leading. It would have been so much better to let God and my future husband lead. It’s taken 27 years; but, I’m doing much better at letting them lead.

I thank God for my husband Lowell. He’s the best part of my life. He’s so loyal and committed to me. I feel so blessed to have been his girl through all these years and all these stages of our life. We’ve both grown so much in the Lord. The Lord has taken us down paths we never thought we’d take. For instance, who would have believed that God would have taken 2 big city college kids and made them happy living in a little town of 11,000 people? When we moved here to Carthage, we thought everyone should know everyone else; it was so small to us. ~smile~ Now we love it here, even with the changes.

Enjoy today!
Spoiled and Blessed with a Faithful, Loving Husband